Love will conquer all — The House of Vines

Over at House of Vines, Sannion recently published a great piece on Aphrodite and Her dark side.

It reminds me of how love hasn’t always been a “many splendored thing” in my life. Love was cruel. I would get these uncontrollable obsessions about women. Nearly always unrequited. I say “obsessions” but it’s not like today. I didn’t stalk or harm these women. I just wanted their attention (and affection) desperately.

Frankly, it’s a part of my life I’ve put behind me and don’t like to think about often. It leads to very unpleasant memories. I was not happy. I was miserable. I didn’t love myself (so naturally, I wasn’t attracting others).

Some would say that it wasn’t love, because it wasn’t mutual. Obsession and love aren’t always the same. Does an addict truly love what’s in the needle that’s killing her? Or the pills? Is that love?

After a good amount of time (and some serious maturing), I learned to love myself, to be comfortable and confident in myself, and I attracted an amazing partner whom I’m currently in a relationship with.

It’s important for me to remember that Aphrodite being the goddess of Love doesn’t always mean romance and flowers and beauty. Sometimes Love can tear you apart. Sometimes hearts get broken.


The Other Aphrodite Everyone knows the goddess Aphrodite, right? The blonde, buxom, bubble-headed beauty rising from the waves on a conch shell, surrounded by fat little flying cupids, flowers, birds, and golden sunlight gleaming off of her diaphanous gown that doesn’t leave a whole lot to the imagination. Her gifts to mortal-kind are grace, feminine […]

via Love will conquer all — The House of Vines


~ by sacredblasphemies on 06/04/2016.

One Response to “Love will conquer all — The House of Vines”

  1. Ouch.

    That was very brave of you to share.

    Reminds me of a scene from one of my favorite movies, Adaptation:

    Charlie Kaufman: There was this time in high school. I was watching you out the library window. You were talking to Sarah Marsh.
    Donald Kaufman: Oh, God. I was so in love with her.
    Charlie Kaufman: I know. And you were flirting with her. And she was being really sweet to you.
    Donald Kaufman: I remember that.
    Charlie Kaufman: Then, when you walked away, she started making fun of you with Kim Canetti. And it was like they were laughing at *me*. You didn’t know at all. You seemed so happy.
    Donald Kaufman: I knew. I heard them.
    Charlie Kaufman: How come you looked so happy?
    Donald Kaufman: I loved Sarah, Charles. It was mine, that love. I owned it. Even Sarah didn’t have the right to take it away. I can love whoever I want.
    Charlie Kaufman: But she thought you were pathetic.
    Donald Kaufman: That was her business, not mine. You are what you love, not what loves you. That’s what I decided a long time ago.


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